Let’s face it: being sad sucks big time. Nobody likes feeling down, depressed, alone. Nobody enjoys it. Still, we all will, sooner or later. And, unfortunately, more than once in a lifetime. I mean, literally.
Sadness is part of the game. It is like the advertising time right before the end of your favorite TV show. Or, more likely, is every lesson, we are obliged to follow before and after break time on an average School Friday, right before vacations. But it is not just this. At the same time, it is a path that needs to be walked alone. First, cause nobody can understand us better than ourselves. And, also, cause to the others, whoever they are, our sadness matters up to a certain point. Don’t panic. They are not a bunch of haters. They are just normal human beings, honestly annoyed by our constant whining. And it is ok this way, cause the hard times in life are a class that needs to be taken and understood. And if you spend your time chatting with your mate about whatever… you are not properly following the lesson. You do not have to rush through it. No need to. It will be over, when the right time comes.
Whenever we are sad and lonely, there is no need to feel guilty. I know. The thought is there. ‘I am here, by myself. I thought I was a decent human being, but probably, I am not. Because nobody seems to be willingly happy to hang out with me, not even the neighbor’s cat’. It is dreadful. And it is wrong. Cause it is a lie. A big fat lie we are telling to ourselves. We need to switch point of view and understand that social interactions are always an effort. We- closed in our individuality – make an effort to be sympathetic with others. We make an effort to understand them. And to relate with them. Others do the same with us. But, when we are fine we are open to their world. When we are sad, we are just too focus on our pain. And this is when the connection breaks.
One more consideration, is about life in general. We are born alone and (I know nobody wants to hear this but I am going to say it anyway) we are going to die alone. No matter how many people will be around us, no matter how many words we will hear, we will be alone as the last Rhino of the African Savanna. And once again, our pain will be just ours.
Maybe, the best way to face loneliness and sadness is embracing them. Understanding that they offer us something valuable, something that belongs to us and only to us. Their words are a whisper made only for our ears. My sadness, and whatever I will learn from it, are just meant to be mine. Different from yours, cause my past and the society in which I grew up, are different.
And again, loneliness and sadness won’t last forever. Nothing does. Not happiness, sadly not even love. We won’t last forever, like this word and after the right amount of billions and trillions of years, even this universe.
Sometimes we feel lonely. And it is absolutely fine. Sometimes we are sad. And it is cool anyway. We won’t understand happiness without sadness. Actually, sadness itself is teaching us how important is living fully every single happy moment that time grants us. And trust me, time is a stingy ass.